Separation issues

I was in relationship for almost 14yrs (long distance) we had our ugly fights, multiple times breakup and still we stayed in relation. With so many flaws yet happy. Our parents agreed for our marriage and as the marriage talks started may be out of nervousness or something my bf used to say that he don't want to marry as he is not happy in relation. Again we managed that hurdle too and got married last year. Though he married me because of pressure from his mom still we tried to be happy because we were habituated to each other for many years. Aftr marriage I understood that he cannot go against his mom which is good (like q good son) but sometimes I get irritated with this thing. Even after marriage now again in long distance as he stays in different country and I am waiting for my spouse visa. He calls his mom first and then me earlier I was okay but later when I understood that his mom behaves differently with me infront of everyone and when we are alone. I started expressing all this to him but he defends his mom alot and told me many times that I am the one who overreacts. Then i became silent and stopped talking about his mom with him. His mom is living with him now on visit visa and he started again that he is not happy with me and all stuff. I don't blame his mom but his behaviour changes. Now again we are having issues that we should have not married let's get separated, he is saying that I dnt care him more and I have attitude issues. First of all we hardly lived 2months together after our marriage it's been a year. And he judged me on this telling me all the faults are within me. I am not able to understand what to do. I feel so depressed and convinced that I am a wrong person with lot of attitude and I am only wrong in everything. My confidence gone.