Venting or help, I don’t know
I’m codependant (amongst many other things) and I think he may be a covert narcissist. There is trauma bonding involved and it’s just been toxic for a long time. I’m completely stressed out and exhausted. I have no money no place to go and to top it off I was just attacked at worked last week buy a customer and now I’m traumatized and scared to death. I’m going to be home from work for awhile. I know I need to leave but my brain and my heart just won’t let me. He knows he’s got one on me because I have no place else to go. I don’t know what to do.
i am really sorry to hear about your situation. I have also been living with a covert narcissist for decades now. Education is the key for us coming out of the state of despair. Education also helps us to make logical decisions instead of emotional decisions which will make us regret later. You are strong and you will come out of it successfully.
@forcefulHuman9469
thank you. Since I finally realized what was really going on that has been all I’m doing. Just educating myself and trying to find help for codependency. It’s not as easy as one would think. But the trauma bonding is a huge struggle too. It’s all been so much I’m exhausted and mentally drained. But I can do this. I will get out somehow. It’s going on 3 years but it has to end soon very soon.
@dapperBalsam2417 incidentally I am helping a friend who, in my assessment, is also going through trauma bonding. The situation is even messier due to a special needs child and a perfectly okay child. I am really concerned about their situation and shared this article today. I do hope that you will also find a way out. Trauma Bonding Signs
@dapperBalsam2417 - so you start. You start getting better. You start getting help. You start making improvements to you. Then you start making improvements to your living situation. Then you start making improvements to your working situation. You eat an elephant - one bite at a time - but you have to start....So just start with 1 bite.
I say this from experience. You just have to start somewhere.
