what would be a good decision..????
so theres this guy im talking to (D), d is really sweet, he texts me good night, good morning, he texts me after school asking abt my day, he always compliments me, calls me pretty, yk stuff like that. but theres other stuff he does which isnt good, he always asks to see my chest and whatnot, and asks over and over again till i say yes, which i do as i dont want him mad at me. my friend says that he’s manipulative and only wants me for that reason, and says hes forcing me and stuff, but i dont think he is, bc i say yes, and its not like its irl so he cant rlly do anything to force me. he also is very freaky and always makes stuff turn that way, even if were mid conversation abt smth completely innocent he will. and ive talked to him abt it and its good for a few days, then got a lot worse. he also drinks and smokes a lot, even after i asked him not to, now he asks for permission and does it a bit less if i tell him no. and i recently broke up with him, as im still in love with my ex, which he knows abt bc i told him that was my reasoning (and ofc all my friends were relieved i broke up with him) and then afterwards i felt better for a little bit but then after a few hours i felt horrible and asked for him back, which ofc he asked “what abt your ex” which the thing with him (B) is that we used to date a year ago, but broke up and i never lost feelings, then a few months ago i asked him out again, he said yes and that he was in love with me the entire time, then his parents found out and made us break up, little to no contact or anything, but im still in love with him and i miss him every day but its been 2 months, and hes dating someone new and he said a month ago he was trying to get over me, but i cant get over him. and me and D are talking again as of this morning, there is also another guy (C) who likes me but i dont like him, and hes also known for cheating on his gfs, there is also another guy (R) who my friends is trying to get me with. my options are, cheat on D with C or R (what my friends are saying, which i dont agree with), get with C and hope he doesnt cheat, stay with D and continue trying to loose feeling for B, cut off D and try to get with R, or stay single and wait and pray that B still loves me by the time hes 18 and his parents dont have a say in who he dates. or anyother options yall can come up with, PLEASE HELP!!!!
also i forgot to mention, ever since me and B broke up i disassociated a ton more and ive been in a bad depression ever since, but since me and D got tg it got EVEN more worse
@Soapbarrrr
That sounds like a lot to carry at once, honestly. You’ve got feelings for B that haven’t gone away, you’re trying to make sense of things with D, and then there’s all this pressure from friends and other people too, it’s a lot for anyone to handle.
It also sounds really uncomfortable the way things go with D sometimes, especially when you feel like you have to say yes just so he doesn’t get upset, or when he keeps turning things sexual even when you don’t want that. That kind of situation can feel really draining and confusing.
And with B… it makes sense that you’re still hurting. When something ends like that, not because you wanted it to, it can stick with you for a long time. Missing him and not being able to move on yet doesn’t make you weak, it just shows how much you cared.
thanks for like actually reading 𥹠also, me and D ended up calling last night and i explained like why my friends (and me) didnt like him, and he apologized and said he only really got like that when he was SUPERRR high, which is true
