Am I an awful partner?
My boyfriend is very very upset with me right now. He says Whenever we are together I constantly check out other men. I was very surprised by this because I do not remember doing this at all. He said that he knows he’s not crazy and that I do it. He said it was even worse that I didn’t realize I was doing it, and that he can’t believe me that I didn’t know i was doing it. I have no idea how to make this right, now matter how hard i try to tell him I don’t do that he won’t listen, I’m very confused because I don’t know whether or not i really did any of that, and im not sure any amount of apologizing will make it better. On the one hand i feel like im being convinced i did things that i know I didn’t do, but on the other i feel like an awful monster that checks out other guys besides her boyfriend and doesn’t even realize it. Am i a bad person? How can i fix this? What can i say to him?
Is he an insecure and jelous type of guy?
Hello there! I'm really sorry you're dealing with this problem. There are 2 possibilities I can think of based on your story. -first one is that you're indeed checking out other guys without realizing it. The way to stop this is to be more mindful of your act. -second one which I think is more likely, your boyfriend really sounds manipulative and might be gaslighting you. He invalidated your statements of not checking out other men, saying that's "he's not crazy" or forcing his thoughts to you until you're questioning yourself right now. Does your boyfriend restrict your social life? Because if yes, it's one more sign that he's manipulating you. If not, you should reach out to trusted ones and tell them. If the second case is true, I hope you seek help and stay away from said boyfriend. I hope you'll be well! Remember that you're loved and you shouldn't be treated less than you deserve <3