Confused between love and family
27M, India I and my gf met on a social media platform around couple of years ago. The day we met I felt for her at first sight. She did not felt the same, but soon she too developed feelings for me and so did I. And now after the good time of 2 years, we decided to get married. We both informed our parents about our decision. They have agreed. Soon in few months, we would be getting married. But now my gf has given me conditions before getting married: 1. She would not work at home/do less house work 2. She do not want to stay with family 3. She do not want to follow traditional routine after marriage (like applying sindoor/wearing mangalsutra/wearing bangles) Since I live in a not so traditional and conservative family, but my mother expects my woman should help her in the house chores. My gf sent me msgs she is scared after seeing my house routines. Though she would have support of my mother, my sister- I am not sure if she would still work. Also my mom is against of keeping any maid. I am totally confused what to do. I've cried for this. For the not staying with family thing, she is now kinda OK. And for the 3rd point, as I said my life is kinda traditional, my mom would expect my woman to atleast wear a small sindoor/small mangalsutra. But she is totally against it and does not want to wear anything. Again I am so confused over here. I do not want to leave my family, neither I want to leave my woman. My feelings for both are true to heart. I can only advise my gf upto a certain extent. Not sure what to do.
@StuckBwLifeNLove,
culture should never ever come between two people who love each other.
What tells your heart, and I mean your heart, don't think on it, you?
What is more important in life?
You know the answer.
Take care.
I don't know what is going on. I care for my family and my gf both and I don't want to leave both :(
Hi have you tried talking to your mother? You must ask yourself this, Does your mother’s happiness mean more than your ladies? If these things truly matter to you then you are not with the right person or if you can’t see your life without your lady then you must have a talk with your mother and tell her your issues
I have never confused love for a family and for a girl. I have a girlfriend and a sister whom I love very much. I met a girl on a wonderful dating site. Her profile on the site was wonderful. I immediately fell in love with her. My sister is also beautiful. But I love her only as a sister and no more.
@StuckBwLifeNLove I understand that you value her happiness as well your family's. But you asked her to marry you, not your family. Do you think it is okay to take her freedom away because of your family culture?
In India, sadly, wives are expected to be a good replacement for maids, even if they have a job. But do you think she would want to live that life, given the choice?
The topic of love has always been and will be relevant for every person. Sometimes people are completely desperate that they cannot find a soul mate. I also had such a problem before. It always seemed to me that someone loves more in a relationship. And my experience also proved this I decided to search the Internet and found an article on the topic Who Loves More: A Man or a Woman?. And there I found a dating site. I began to communicate with the girl and realized that she loves me as much as I love her!