Did I make a mistake?
My girlfriend of 2 years has been in a jail alternative program for about 5 months now. She said she has learned so much about herself. She's apologized for not always being honest, caring or faithful in the past. She assured me these things wouldn't be an issue moving forward. Now I'm feeling like it was all jail talk. When she calls me and asks how I'm doing or feeling she continuously interrupts with rude comments telling me, I'm stupid for feeling the way I do, it's wasting her time listening to this crap, things like that. 2 months ago she convinced me to relocate 2 1/2hrs away to her hometown where I know no one or anything. Before her incarceration we were living in my hometown. I had reservations about this move but didn't want to just give up on our relationship. I felt I needed to give it my all if it were going to work. After getting here none of her family were willing to even conversate let alone show me the town or help me out. She made me promise I would not break up with her while she is locked up. I had no intentions of this anyway. As we are getting closer to her out date things are coming to surface. She is constantly insulting me. Threats of leaving me. She's still lying to me, what she calls trying to reassure me or comfort me. She's decided to go to sober living after care which is fine. I love her and want nothing but the best for her. My only problem is she assured me this would not happen. I told her before I moved if she wanted or needed to do that I would wait a little longer to relocate. She's informed me she will be going to another county over an hour away from her hometown for this after care. When I try to ask her why or what made her decide to do this she gets angry with me. Starts blaming me for things unrelated. I tried to express my feelings on the matter just to be completely ignored and insulted. I'm starting to wonder if I've made a mistake. I was warned about her behavior and ignored it. I am seeing the things they had said come to light. She's apologized for her careless acts then in the same conversation is being careless. Please somebody tell me if I'm being neieve.
@Faded360
Well my friend, if you want to have alle the same problems with her in the future as you have now, you can continue to see her.
Well - as I see it, she does not have a good character. But why should you listen to me? People have told you before about her. Rude comments, lying, ignoring, insulting you.
From your friend Helga.
@Faded360,
she is manipulating you, not to be trusted and definitely not in a good place.
Why do you hang on?
What would you need her for? For more b*llshit and mayhem like this?
Do you fancy torturing yourself?
Stop letting her controlling your life.
Wake up, look in the mirror, tell the person you see in the mirror that you love that person, and start acting on it.
PS move again, as far away as you can
@dukeofdearham
My friend.
What a glittering answer you gave to our friend.
From Helga.