Dismissive and cold boyfriend
My boyfriend is very hot and cold and I don’t know how to deal with it. One minute he’s being very loving and supportive, the next minute he talks to me like I’m a complete stranger and he has no regard for my feelings. He thinks I’m trying to manipulate him when I cry even though I’m genuinely hurt. Sometimes I try to not cry when he’s around but it’s difficult and I don’t think I should have to do that. When I tell him about how contradictory his behavior is or if I argue back, he just goes silent and completely ignores me, or emphasizes how much he doesn’t care about what I have to say. We’ve been together for 4 years and I have seen growth in a lot of areas, but this part is and has always been the most difficult to deal with.
@SoulSearching1997 judging by what you wrote I think he is insecure about his emotions and tries to hide them from you due to emotional neglect and trauma in the past. I am saying this because i have been in similar situations with my current partner and he has admitted it to me. This is not a reason to split, you can always try and help him open up, people who have been emotionally abused usually need more time opening up, but if he does not acknowledge and care about your feelings then that's not good. You matter just as much as him, if he makes you feel less important then something has to change. This is my opinion, I believe you will find a solution <3