Don’t know what to do
Good morning everyone,
i have been suffering from depression lately. Been having a lot of arguments with my boyfriend which we don’t normally do. We have been dating for a while. Him and his two teenage boys moved in with me, their mother has decided to be non-existent. I have stepped in to raise the children because she decided to not be a parent anymore. Everything was good the first couple of months, and then the oldest started getting angry and was extremely rude to me all because k asked him to do chores and clean up after himself. He does not respect me and yells and I don’t tolerate it. He feels he can do what he wants when he wants and have me pay for it. Normally the bf and I are on the same page but when we are not he gets upset with me and says just let it go and move on stop holding grudges their just kids. We just had a blow out the other night about something he did and his go to is I’ll just move out. Why is this the go too? I’ve never heard this before in a committed relationship. If we were married then what would he do? I feel so defeated, and want to just give up. I’ve done so much to help him and his boys.
Sorry you’re going through this. Sounds like your boyfriend has communication issues. He really needs to listen to you and respect your feelings. You need to have a serious talk with him about making some changes. If he’s not even willing to try then there’s no reason to stay with him. You might regret staying with him for so long if this treatment continues. I’m also in a relationship with a man with kids. And if you’re putting in all this work for them, you deserve the same in return.
Thank you so much for the advice. It’s nice to hear I’m not the only one who feels this way. I sometimes feel like their mother serious just wanted to run away because he’s so difficult to deal with. He’s not nice to girls/women in general. I was not prepared to take this on. I’ve helped raise a teenage girl and she was not like this. I can’t keep opening up my wallet while I’m getting kicked in the teeth. I wasn’t raised this way.
You’re welcome! You need to put yourself first always. If you do decide to leave him, it sounds like it’s for the best. The cons of this relationship sound bigger than the pros.