Feeling isolated

Sometimes people don't know how to handle their emotions. Often when I get in an argument with my SO they walk away while I'm talking too and then we never get to finish the conversation. It makes me angry, so then I started following them and continueing the conversation and making it worse leading to hurtful things we both probably didn't mean.. until I realized that walking away was a tactic for them (and me) to cool down and process the information.. and I just had to come to terms with that and bring it up again in a calmer manner when we were both in a better mind set. Someone else told me that a lot of the time when talking about something hard it's going to take more than one conversation. Which sucks believe me but it will and can get better.

I could understand why he got mad, but you have to remember that relationships take two not one so if you feel something you should tell him. If he doesn't listen then it's his fault that you went to seek guidance because he won't comfort and help you. What they did was wrong by answering with hurtful comments do not feel like your in the wrong for just wanting to find an opinion so you wouldn't feel so stuck. I suggest you cut contact with whoever those people were for they are not good for you. If your partner is making you feel not happy try to tell him how you feel. If he doesn't listen or makes you feel worse then I suggest leaving him. Because a relationship should always listen to one another. First they've got to hear it out before they walk it out.

Honestly I see where your spouse is. It’s best to keep the problems within your relationship is you do seek outside help I’d recommend couples therapy

How does he know you talk to someone else about the relationship? Can you be more discreet? Is the friend you confide in the same sex as your partner? If they’re a different sex it might make your partner uncomfortable. I empathize with you because everyone needs at least one friend to talk to.