Healthy relationship?
I think I'm in the first healthy relationship I've ever been in.. we are going really slow with everything. He takes care of me in a way I've never imagined.. Will I ever feel like I'm enough or that I deserve what he has to offer? I feel like I'm going to sabotage myself and ultimately destroy what I have with him.. I really like him and I don't know how to fix myself enough to be happy.
@brokenmirror97
I believe that we never deserve others. We deserve respect, definitely, and you do. But since no one deserves another person, you are free. You have someone to care for you well, and you can be filled with gratitude. That is so much better than feeling that you deserve it. It's not because you are good enough or because you deserve it (and hence there's no such thing as "not good enough" or "not deserving"). Instead it is a gift, and the best way to receive gifts is to say "thank you", and "I love it so much" (ok, I'm not good at the second one, but you get the idea).
You are good, and now you get to enjoy. Be free, and whenever you are worried replace it with gratitude. That is good for all. Enjoy, and congratulations. I am happy for you. Thank you for sharing.
@brokenmirror97 I'm glad that you have found a relationship that you think that is healthy. It's so important to have that expectation of a relationship. I'm happy that he is there for you and that both of you are taking your time. Relationships take time, work and investment. I'm glad that you realize that if you do not heal, that you will sabotage yourself and ultimately destroy what you have with him. It's great that you have found someone that you like and that you want to keep the relationship and heal and be happy. And as you heal, you will start feeling better about yourself which will help your happiness and your relationship with him.