Help me save this :(
So there is a guy I have been taking to on and off for the past year, we have become really close. He shares a lot of different traits that I do that I honestly haven’t found in anyone else, and usually we meet up late at night, cuddle and watch a movie and he cooks dinner, and at times spend the next day together. I know most of his friends, he knows most of mine. Well last Friday I went out and he was saying he had a friend that was out and described his out fit, and I found him.... and it happens to be this guy that I had my one and only one night stand with in my life.... So naturally that guy tells my friend and now he has stop talking to me, and responding to my snaps and stuff... Is there a way to fix this? I miss him and the one thing he responded to last Saturday was when I messaged him saying I felt sick and felt so bad, and he responded ‘don’t feel bad, were only friends’..... So background, one night stand guy I didn’t know he was my guy’s friend, and this was 6+ months ago.... My friend is kinda a fuckboy, he’s stubborn and when he gets mad he kind of withdraws... And I am happy with the situation him and I had, I knew what it was, and it was nice having someone to cuddle with or talk about stuff with that jokes around the same as I do... Oh and we are both 30
@loveyoucactus
It's a bit confusing to see why there is so much "bad" feelings about this 6+ months ago incident, when you were not even in any relationship or commitment. Is this because it was his friend, or would he withdraw his friendship if it had been any other guy?
I am also confused because I honestly was wondering the same thing.... He insist that we are only friends but as soon as he found out withdrew all contact :(
@loveyoucactus
You said when he gets mad he withdraws. Maybe this is him being mad and not even clear why.
It's hard to wait while he sorts through his own thoughts and feelings but at the moment there doesn't seem to be any alternative. Hopefully. once he has things sorted within himself, he would have the decency to explain himself.
While you go through this confusing time, please do remember your self care; eat well, sleep enough, exercise and engage with positive stuff.
Best wishes!
Thank you so much, so far I haven't heard anything from him still... People are confusing sometimes
Thank you so much, so far I haven't heard anything from him still... People are confusing sometimes
Give him some time and space, don’t message him or contact him for a while he’ll be back. Do other things to keep you distracted from thinking about him and wanting to message him. He’s in his feelings because maybe he looks at you more than just a friend.
@willingBalloon4638 yeah I think he was using me as a cuddle buddy, and I do have feelings for him and I'm just afraid he will forget me :( I only sent him a few memes and he did put lol for some of them but the latest one he didn't open 🥺