Hopeless Romantic or jus disappointed romantic?
Hi
Im Goslar and I'm 22, I havebeen have dating issues for quite some time now ever since a hard breakup when I was 20. After that breakup i cant stay in a relationship for more than 2 months, i easily get bored and start messing things up ... i believe I'm cynical now and as of yet i havent dated anyone in like 3 months and i feel very lonely and scared to enter a relationship as well
Am i a hopeless romantic or jus disappointed romantic coz i fantasize about love and dream about having a stable relationship and sometimes i even think of the gud times i had in a relationship before i messed things up and usually i blame myself for the bad decisions i made but then i couldnt help myself. What do you think, am i a hopeless romantic or jus a disappointed romantic?
Hey @Goslar,
Sounds like you’re self sabotaging. I think you’re just a little bit of both. You want and fantasize about a relationship but you sabotage the relationship for some reason. Maybe take some time for yourself and figure out why do you mess up the relationships.
Hi Goslar, please don't fall in love with the idea of love. Make sure that you're falling in love with the person you're committing to or you'll feel lonely and miserable. It's alright to make bad decisions as long you as you are held accountable and spark self growth from within!
I fantasise about a perfect love life too, but it takes a strong will to set the best foundations for your relationships to work out. This means reflecting boundaries, being considerate and always having good intentions even when you are angry at your partner :)
Hope you don't beat yourself too much, nobody is perfect! you're neither 😊 You can always help yourself, the toughest part is identifying and ACCEPTING your mistakes, then having the discipline to not do something you regret again.