Idk what's happening
Me and my gf have been together for 2 months now, everything was going amazing at the start we felt a lot of love for each other and were very happy, but I suddenly started to get very numb and I started to have really bad overthinking, i always kinda felt numb and would occasionally overthink but I got way worse and it's putting a strain on our relationship, she's very affectionate, supportive and caring. I've told her about all the thoughts and feelings I get from all of the overthinking and such but no matter how much we talk about it, it just doesn't go away, I've had thoughts about giving up on us, and fears about how I'm just going to hurt her and about what if I don't love her or I don't love her enough cause I'm mostly numb, but I really do love her I just don't know what's going on, we don't wanna give up and are willing to do anything to make this work, I have a lot of issues outside of our relationship and to be honest, nothing much is wrong with our relationship, also ever since we got together I've been more or less doing nothing but talk to her, could this be an issue some how, i was told that it could be that I'm depending on her for all my happiness and that could be a problem, could that be it? Also could it be that the stress and negativity from my problems are causing this or are at least contributing? And is there any way we can deal with this until I can get access to therapy?
@numbieuwu It must be so frustrating for you, being in such an amazing relationship yet not fully being there, I can feel your pain. See I can't advice you because you're the expert of your life, however did you try introspecting within you the root cause of the overthinking thoughts? Once you reach there you'll be able to get the solution and if you find it difficult to do so you can definitely go for therapy it would be helpful for you☺️.
I tried to but I can't really seem to find a root :/
See, overthinking really destroys the relationship as well as mental peace. But after reading your thread, I have concluded that maybe it's all happening because you're not giving yourself enough time. Like you said, you keep talking to her, but what about your personal space. And by this way you're kibda depending on her. So my advice for you is to take some private time for yourself in which just think about yourself and meditate a but. And whatever thoughts you're getting just write it down, if they're negative, turn them into positive aspect. Hope it will help you.
Best of luck and more power to you 💜
