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User Profile: sunnyPenguin41
sunnyPenguin41 February 19th, 2021

This has been issues with me and my boyfriend relationship for almost 3 years. We're long distance partner and in that time we have never seen each other but we always plan it, not even video call. 2 weeks ago, we had huge fight because of me being insecure towards him help on of his friend, I promised him that I'll do better and I did slowly, until yesterday I saw him playing a game with a female friend. I noticed it that he been liking the girl's tweets so I was also liking the girl's tweets. He repeatedly said to me that he's just friends with everyone else, I trust him but it's really hard. I can't control the jealousy and my feelings of afraid losing him. I want him to talk to me only. I know he just helping people, I know it's a game, but my anger, my insecurities and my jealousy got better of me and ruin everything. We broke up before he fall asleep. He live in USA and I live in Asia. I know it's just an online interactions and he always say to me he only loves me, but I don't know why I keep getting jealous and insecure about it. Like... I didn't ask for this but I always worry and overthinking anytime I see him talking to a girl. What should I do. I love him dearly and I want this relationship to work, but this insecurities of mine ruin everything... Please, I need help. I don't want to lose him or hurt anyone because I'm being insecure.

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User Profile: CompassionateDreamer8522
CompassionateDreamer8522 February 19th, 2021

@sunnyPenguin41 I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. I hope you're able to talk to him about it and open up an honest line of communication about everything. <3

User Profile: Heartofgold07092019
Heartofgold07092019 February 22nd, 2021

It's understandable to be insecure about having your boyfriend be talking to a female person or to be jealous but you also need to be able to control the jealousy. The only way you are going to be able to control your jealousy is if you have trust in your boyfriend that hes not going to go do anything with female person. So be very open about it letting them know that "Hey I feel uncomfortable with you doing this this and this." And just go from there on what they have to say. I hope this helps good luck