Is it just my anxiety/ insecurities?
My husband just came home from a deployment. He made a female friend while he was there. She is married as well. I knew about the couple while he was there. I guess I didn’t realize he was communicating with her so much. He messages her quite a bit. I do suffer from anxiety, depression, and OCD. I talked to him about it. He said they were never alone and they are just friends. Unfortunately I pushed several days in a row and then he got determined that he is keeping her as his friend. I don’t want to be cheated on but I also don’t want to push him into it since he says they are just friends. Help! I am going crazy.
You are not going crazy. I would also feel uncomfy with the “friendship” that he made. My advice would be to play it cool and see if you could do a double date to get to know her more. If it feels weird, something is probably going on. My husband has a job where he works long hours with other women and I can get jealous about things but ultimately I try to give the people he makes relationships with a fair chance. I do however feel uncomfortable with him messaging them one on one for reasons unrelated to work (mostly because he is oblivious and wouldn’t know if the women had feelings for him) and he agrees that that is a dicey territory.. so he doesn’t. I don’t find anything wrong with a partner prioritizing their partners needs and not contributing to insecurities.
