Is using onlyfans cheating?
Hello all, I'm new here...I really need some advice on my relationship issues at the moment. Last night I found out my boyfriend of 4 years has an account on onlyfans. He has messaged on there, and searched for the same girls FB and insta. I feel like I've been cheated on. He used to have an insta, but deleted it (as far as I know) because he was wanking to girls on there. There was one girl that we mutually know. He agreed to delete insta because he could see it was hurting me. But to find out he's doing not only the same thing...but now messaging and paying to wack off to these girls. I feel like it's my fault. I was injured, and we haven't been able to to *that* for 6 months because it's extremely painful for me. Please give me some advice, it's much needed.
@amparile Because you’ve expressed to your boyfriend that you’re not comfortable with him doing this previously, and now he’s doing it again and has also been hiding it from you, then yes I would say it’s cheating. He’s going out of his way to do this, as he’s paying for it, and the fact that he’s also messaging people and finding them on other platforms just amplifies it. Always remember that it’s not your fault.
I’d leave him. My husband isn’t allowed to do that crap. But if I did see him I’d make him buy me a puppy and I’d lock his stuff so he can’t go on it again no fb etc
There are support groups for people with porn/sex addiction and there are support groups for partners of those addicted. BUT, my opinion has always been that untile you’re married, you can walk away at any time with no guilt. You don’t have to put up with this. In the end, YOU decide what you want and have to live with your decision.