Marriage
Iv been with my husband on an off for 7 years we got married almost 4 years ago an this past January he left me for another girl an slept with several people including me for the last 4 months an iv only slept with one other person one time but he has decided he wants to work things out once again an this is the 3rd time I’m scared I love him but I moved out in January then moved back a month later then recently moved out a week ago an now he wants to work things out he wants to quit drinking an start fresh what do I do? Do I see where things go? Do I need to start trusting him again? I’m lost.
Hi Dezzy. I’m sorry things have been tough in your marriage. If you want to work things out, I think you both need to trust each other. Does he have a problem with alcohol use disorder? Why does he want to quit drinking? Are you able to support him in this to help in his bid for getting sober? This might mean you don’t have alcohol in the house. Can you make that sacrifice? If the infidelity continues, I’d break it off. But that’s just me. How much of this are you willing to put up with? How much can he put up with? Are either of you in therapy? Couples therapy? It might help if you want to work on things.
He does have a drinking problem an that was a lot of the fight because he was always drunk an he wants to quit because he knows that was the biggest issue in our marriage it made him mean I’m willing to stand by him but I told him the cheating needs to stop an he is taking online therapy but I’m just scared because we have broken up 3 Times in the last 7 years an he has cheated on me 3 times I told him I’ll never leave his side even if we broke up I will always be there for him but he decided he wanted to change and I told him actions speak louder than words an I need to see the change
Sorry to hear this, how are things now?