Not sexually attracted to Boyfriend
I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 months now and I’ve lost sexual attraction to him. Very rarely do I have those kinds of feelings for him. I don’t know what to do. I still love him and want to be in a relationship with him but he has an extremely high sex drive and I feel so guilty for saying no all the time. I love him so much I just want to do what’s best but I’m not even sure what that is
Irrelevant question, inopportune; but may I ask: what does he lack that would you find sexually attractive?
I think he’s very attractive so I’m not sure
maybe something needs to happen that makes you enjoy it more...
It could be that you are asexual. It isn't that uncommon and if so there's nothing wrong with you. Regardless, you need to negotiate for a situation that would make you more happy. There's nothing wrong with saying no if you feel uncomfortable, but perhaps you need to talk about it with him more openly. He has to negotiate for something that would make him happy. And you both will likely have to compromise and meet in the middle. Having said that, if compromising means you are unhappy or don't feel comfortable and safe then perhaps you two need to discuss what future you actually see together.
