Overreacting?
Lately i find myself questioning if my boyfriend has my best interest as he claims he does. He constantly says he loves me and says how much he cares and how he wants to be together forever but his actions don't always prove it. I have been paying for almost everything and its to a point he like expects it.. he says he has this and that going on with his money but in the mean time mines dwindling down but we are supposed to be a team. He barely does anything he used to cook, clean or pop up with little things I like. Yet, expects me to keep doing it all and not have any type of feelings. If I say anything he says I'm nagging over nothing and need to learn to let things go not everything needs to be an issue. The problem is I am just becoming tired.... tired of doing everything, tired of it being expected but not returned and tired of being told it's not a big deal. I keep trying to not let it get to me because I miss how I was happy and things seemed more equal. Am I over reacting and should just let it be or is this a legitimate issue that should be corrected...?
I know I can overthink and let small things get to me so not sure if this is one of them times... any advise would be appreciated.
It's normal that you feel tired. Relationships is about both giving and getting and you seem to be just giving and that won't work on the longer path. I don't think you're overreacting, you're just asking for what you should already get from that relationship, what you deserve. You should focus on how you feel. If something feel off then something is wrong. If it keeps feeling that way despite your efforts, then you'll have to do more about it. Don't think that much about how good it was, think about how it is now. But before you decide on anything, try to have one more conversation, open and honest. If he doesn't listen this time, then it's his loss.