Overthinking after breaking up&Getting back tg
Me and my bf have been dating for just about a year but about a month ago he broke up w me very abruptly because he didnt know what he wanted. After like 2 days he realized it was a mistake and very spur of the moment . I know he regrets it but I cant seem to fully trust that he wont do it again. Im constantly overthinking& asking crying over small things and worrying. He says its ok and he understands but Im scared I will push him away. Any tips on how to not overthink as muh about this?
Hello, my tip would be to have a very long conversation about BOTH of your worries and make it’s a conversation and not an argument or yelling match. Communication is key in any and all relationships whether it’s romantically or friendship(ally?). Communication is key. When you communicate that can help to ease both of your worries and will make it easier coming to each other if there’s anything else on your minds :)
Hi thanks so much for responding:) Me and him are very big on communication so we never have fought and all of our “arguments” are very calm and civil but we had a talk about everything when we got back tg . And ive also talked to him about afterwards. He says he doesnt have any worries besides me being upset and he understands why I am overthinking being that he semi broke my trust I just tell him i worry itll happen again blah blah and he assures me it wont but i cant help but think time to time that it will and get nervous
Did he get specific why he got back with you? Do you think it was because he knew breaking up hurt you? Make sure he is not still with you just because he doesn’t want to hurt you, that could backfire in the long run. But I’d say since you’ve been together over a year and you’ve only had one breakup that’s a good sign.
I told him when he broke up w me and when he got back w me that it cant be just bc he feels bad. Ive asked him many times if thats y and he says that its not and he wants to be with me and that the whole thing was impulsive. Thank you:)