Perfectionist Husband

Today I realized that my husband is a maladaptive perfectionist. I'm happy to have answers, because it has caused damage and serious problems. When I was looking up how to live with a perfectionist husband, I found this that I thought was insightful:

A perfectionist lives with an endless list of internal rules. Don’t allow those to be your rules also. Family members often go along to avoid the anger or the distress that will result in the one making the demands. Experience should teach you that there will just be new rules coming along in a never-ending sequence. Bullying requires cooperation in the household-don’t participate. The goal is to help the perfectionist see that they are only making themselves unhappy while others are enjoying life. This approach requires time and repetition to be effective. The goal is to help the perfectionist to see how their efforts cause them to be happy so that they are willing to try to change. Even small steps-don’t make the bed today, don’t help with homework today, order dinner, leave the work until tomorrow at the office-will help to break the compulsive need to do things an absolutely specific way. Each time a change is made the compulsion lessens taking the perfectionist one step closer to living a more joyful and freer life