Relationship difficulties
Hi so this is hard to share. My bf is very sexual and wants to have sex all of the time. I have caught him watching porn multiple times by looking at his search history and he told me he would quit and I thought he was serious this time, last night I got on his phone to search his search history because I was curious and I found searches along the lines of “step sis” “nymphos” and “blonde bjs” I am really insecure about blonde women and am worried I can never give him enough sex ever. I’m also worried he’s going to cheat on me because his sexual urges and needs, can someone please reassure me and let me know what I should do? I already told him if he looks it up again I want him to see a therapist or else we’re breaking up but I feel like he’s just gonna try and hide it more now. Thanks
@charmingLunch5421 Hmm some people have different levels of drive or need in this department, and it's about him personally and not you. I realize people have different views about porn, but for many people it's just about meeting personal sexual needs. Maybe you could reflect on being more open to experimenting a little in the bedroom or think about what might help you feel sexy and confident in that department? Maybe ask for more compliments from him on how you look or treat yourself to a new outfit or lipstick? Just my opinion, but I feel like it's healthier to not try to control or monitor what he does privately and just focus on what you both need and want from your relationship and sexual connection.