Care to explain more SA?
I can not understand the need to be in an intimate friendship. I like friendly relationships where there is play, fun, shopping and so on. But I do not like intimacy and talking about private matters and expressing deep feelings
As long as you're happy in general you shouldn't consider it as problem I would say? Do you have PTSD?
I think I haven't PTSD I hadn't have conditions for PTSD
shoule be fine than@SA347
I will be fine but my friends want that I be intimacy. So I can't understand why?
Hello SA, I’ve also struggled in the past with intimacy in my friendships. Are you comfortable with the quality of your current friendships? I only ask because it sounds to me like your friend is sort of pushing you to be more vulnerable and it sounds like you aren’t comfortable with that. Share and open up at your own pace. If it really bothers you, try having a conversation with that friend describing what you enjoy as their friend and explaining why you don’t feel totally comfortable with intimacy. It might help to talk it out with them to help them understand your feelings better
I live in Iran. Here, family relationships are defined for married people I mean, my husband is friends with a man and I will be in a relationship with that man and his wife. I did not choose that woman for friendship. These women and I may have little in common. But often in such relationships, those people quickly seek intimacy. I do not understand why in a superficial friendly relationship should be mandatory for intimacy.
اگر سعی کنم از آنها فاصله بگیرم دوستی همسرم خدشه دار می شود و بعد من و او به دردسر می افتیم.
If I try to distance myself from them My husband's friendship is undermined And then he and I get into trouble.
Maybe try to look at it as an opportunity for a real friendship, rather than a superficial one. It could be good practice on how to be intimate with others and socialising with similar people like that.