Severe relationship anxiety
Help, I’ve been living with my bf during the summer and I’m about to go back home for the semester. I fear when I leave he will go back to the girl he replaced me with and the cycle will loop. He assured me it won’t, but they are still “friends”. He doesn’t see my perspective as valuable and sees it as delusional. He sees her as just a friend but to me she is something he hurt me with. It’s giving me a lot of anxiety, but he always brushes it off or makes me seem like I’m crazy.
That’s called gaslighting where you’re made to feel crazy for feeling something valid. If you already know of another woman, they’re not just friends. Your instincts were right. You need to leave him, and then work on yourself a whole lot. It’s not easy but it’s better than the anxiety you’re feeling because you know you’re being lied to but also being told not to think like that. If that doesn’t cause unrest within the soul, I don’t know what would. If you have good friends or family members, please reach out to them. You’re going to need a lot of support with this. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but truth hurts, and then it sets us free. Take heart. You’ll make it through.
