Spouse

My husband and I have two small kids. [Edited by QuietMagic]

He promised to get help.

ive tried to hang in there but I don’t know if I can handle the verbal abuse and the endless raging any longer. It happens so often and he uses anything I told him in confidence against me. He even downloaded my whole fb with all the msges (I didn’t even know that was possible) and he went through msges from before I even met him. He went through my conversations with my ex and friends and ppl I went on a date with. I thought I deleted everything but fb archived it. Everytime he gets angry he recites some of the msges.

After another episode of him raging I just lost hope. I needed time to think. I organised a therapist and already had 1 session. I realised that I just can’t do this any longer! even though I love him and I wish we could be together forever without the rage, manipulation and constant paranoid thinking. I gave him an ultimatum and explained that I can’t do it any longer without help. I told him that if he doesn’t get in therapy I can’t continue in this relationship. As I should of expected, he completely lost it. He threatens to talk to my in-laws and talk about every guy I dated before him.

(his parents are very strict and religious) I met him at 27 so neither one of us was a virgin and we both dated etc. But he also wants to tell them everything I’ve ever told him in confidence. One of them was having an abortion which is such a sensitive and painful subject for me. He is just emotionally abusive and I just don’t know what to do anymore. He is working in a different state right now but the constant calling and abusing has given me so much anxiety. My hart is racing I’m lost.

_{[Edited and moved 4/24/22 by QuietMagic per PD subcommunity guidelines.]}