Thinking about ex in new relationship
Hey guys please help I am so in confusion right now. I was in relationship with a guy for 4 years and we lived in hostel so almost live together for 4 years. But due to constant fighting about stupid stuffs we broke up in last October. He then started to like another girl after 4-5 days and told me to move on and got in relationship with her. So i gather my courage to move on and in jan I also started to date a guy who is friend of mine for 4 years and loved me for 4 years. We were best friends for few year but due to misunderstanding we got apart so there was always soft corner for him. Now it's been 4 months we are dating but now I am not having any romantic feelings for him but i constantly keep thinking about my ex who told me that he is not dating anyone and if i was not dating then he has came back. Now i am confused as i don't want to break my friend's heart because I do care for him lot and I don't know if having these thoughts about getting with ex together is good or not
Honestly, I think it’s easier to fall inlove than it is to keep a relationship. Genuine love is something you grow into and not just immediately feel. Just because you may not feel for your friend the way you feel for your ex now, doesn’t mean you never will. But it is your life and heart on the line here. Maybe you can ask yourself a few questions first and list the pros and cons of getting back together with your ex and/or staying with your friend. Is there a chance that you and your ex will break up again? Is there a chance that he’ll just start liking another girl anyway? Is he single now because he broke it off with her or because she did? Is there a possibility that he’s keeping you as a safety net? Just some food for thought.
I think you have to be very careful. There are alot of good guys that have what you are looking for on paper, but are the right emotions there. The way you two decided to split.. i don’t know if thats how easy it would have been if you were madly inseparably in love. I really believe you deserve to be with your soul mate.. i hope its him(if it is.. you know what you need to do).. if its not him.. maybe you’re suppose to be single for a while
Im so sorry please ignore my comment.. I thought i was replying to a different persons question so sorry
I think it is best to cut it off. The new guy obviously loves u and its not fair to drag him along. think about how u would feel if u were w someone who debated going back to their ex. Talk to him and just say that u relized u made a mistake. Its only been 4 months and if uve been friends for so long he should understand