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Want to leave brand new relationship

User Profile: willingCamp6726
willingCamp6726 October 5th, 2021

Hi! Looking for advice for anyone who might have experience here…

I just started a new relationship (2 weeks ago) after 3 months of dating.

Recently, I can feel myself recoiling and becoming extremely disinterested. It makes me sad because he is basically perfect.

this is my first relationship after a 5 year and emotionally taxing relationship.

I think I have developed some commitment and intimacy issues because of my last relationship.

even worse, I wonder why my brain tricked me and this beautiful poor guy into thinking I was ready for this.

help

please


its more complicated because we share a best friend



thanks

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User Profile: dukeofdearham
dukeofdearham October 5th, 2021

@willingCamp6726,

might be that you simply are not ready yet for a new relationship.

Quite a few people "talk" themselves into a relationship, because they have a need they think can be fulfilled by the other person. Like feeling lonely, low self-esteem, feeling weak whereas the other is perceived as being strong.

If you feel genuine love, not "Hollywood" love, like a deep genuine true unconditional love for self and others, after the "honeymoon" days are over, you wouldn't have any doubts.

I don't see why having a mutual friend matters. True friends won't take sides.