Why doesn't he care about my orgasms?
I've tried many times to talk to my boyfriend about how I'd also like to orgasm when we have sex, yet despite the talks I see no change. Naturally he cums first and then sleeps or goes about his business afterwards, and I'm left lying next to him with blue balls. I usually finish myself off while he's in another room doing something, but it leaves me feeling sh#tty and I have the saddest, loneliest orgasms. I just don't understand why he doesn't care or try .. Kinda frustrating. How do I talk to him about this?
Hey! That’s really tough. Could you maybe talk to him about foreplay? Or even introducing a sex toy? Would that interest him?
I've tried that, and he said he'd be open to it, but after he cums his excuse is that it takes too much time or energy on his part. Another thing that comes up is that when I do use the toy he gets jealous of the fact that I don't orgasm as hard from his thrusts, and that the toy gives me better orgasms. Hurts his ego. Now I can't enjoy sex anymore
Hello, It’s best you two have serious talk. Maybe mention going to a toy store together and getting things that would spice up the sex life, adding a little tease and pleasure, for the both of you. During this time have the talk.
