should i stay
my boyfriend and i are having this ongoing problem about me and what i want to wear. i have finally gotten him to allow me to wear jeans to school but i’m still afraid to go to school while wearing them. i’m not allowed to wear make up to school either. or go to any school activities. i feel like i’m not allowed to do the things that i want to without him getting mad at me.
@cecefaye03 I’m so glad you have found 7cups. I can’t tell you what to do, however I would ask you to think about a few things - there is no wrong answers here.
1. Do you like being in a relationship with someone who controls what you wear? Or do you value your freedom of choice in fashion and independence?
2. Do you want to be involved with someone who is emotionally triggered by your choice of clothes, and do you feel that is a reasonable behaviour?
3. Can you see yourself being happy while with someone who puts these expectations on you, and if so, why/how?
4. Can you see yourself being happy choosing to leave this person who puts these expectations on you, and if so, why/how?
Take your time, think about what is important to you and what you’re values are. Once you clearly understand your own beliefs, you can decide what you are or are not okay accepting in others.
Keep talking to listeners here for more support - ^_^
thank you for replying. i’ve got a lot to think about & this helped me too understand what i want & what actions i need to take
I hope things are going well but i would brrak up woth him. Not to be the person thats like ya dump him after a sma inconvience, but ur literaly in jail. Nobody is allowd to tell you how to dress or where u are and are not allowd to go. ESPECIALY IF ITS A SCHOOL EVENT. Think about it do u really want to b living in a box the rest of your life without things that make u happy. U will end up resenting him and regret not living