space.. but what does it mean
me and my partner have been talking for almost a year now and soon it will be our 6 months. during the summer we spent two months apart because we were arguing a lot and the relationship was going in a bad direction. we come back and things were A LOT better which is amazing but we still have out issues. he’s manic and i am also manic too so we have moments where we’re in episodes and clash and don’t even realize it. today was our worst fight by far. we were both in a manic episode and didn’t even realize not once and it resulted in us arguing the ENTIRREEE day! which totally sucked. we said mean things and hurt each other in such ways i didn’t even know were possible. honestly today was miserable for the both of us and at first my initial response was a breakup but he says we can learn from this as a self reflecting situation and as a way to understand each other better in our relationship and tbh i feel like he’s right very right i’m just stupidly terrified. now we’re taking a couple days of space apart from each other but god just even the thought of that hurts me inside and out. i have abandonment issues so i’m scared he may just leave me and think i’m not worth sticking around for and i can’t be upset if that’s the case it’s just god.. that would f*cking hurt a lot! i love him more than anything in this world and i would do and will do whatever for him i’m just so scared that maybe today was the end of us.. dear universe please keeps us together ;w;
@Maddie88
Hi! That sounds like a pretty rough situation to be in. Just reflecting back on some things you've said - You both took a break from the relationship for a while because of the relationship was going in an unfavourable direction. When you got back, it's very much better but there are still things you're a bit concerned about, which is understandable. You were both experiencing manic episodes and argued for the entire day, which sounds very difficult and tiring. It is understandable to not feel like your self in those moments but I'm glad you both are reflecting back on it. He has also told you that he's trying to take it as an opportunity to understand your relationship better. It seems like an idea to give yourselves time and space for just a while. Your concerns are valid and I can see that if that happens, it'd really hurt. How did he react/behave after this and how do you feel about it all, if you'd like to share?
Know that we're here for you. ❤️
[On a side note, I had to delete another similar post of yours since it probably got posted twice somehow. I hope that is fine!]
hii thank you so much for reading and hearing me out!
he reacted pretty similarly to me tbh. he went kind of numb after the situation and he blamed himself for a lot of it the same way that i did and since then we’ve talked on and off but we’ve been giving each other some space to really clear our heads. a big reason for the argument was simply all of the stress and pressure we feel like we’re under from the world and it’s been hard trying to communicate that as open and vulnerable as we should with one another so yesterday i think it just kinda took a bigger toll on us than we had even realized or what have liked to admit. since then things have been cooled down but the situation itself just feels very scary and unreal even. i’m hoping that within the next week things feel a bit lighter between us but i know that in order for that to happen then i need to also take some initiative in it as well.
@PixieT1Star
Of course, you're not alone! I can see that you both reacted pretty much similarly and tried to talk a bit also providing each other the much needed space. I can understand that sometimes the stress of just living is too much in this world and communication can be hard. I appreciate you acknowledging that and being honest with me about it. The situation does feel very unexpected and overpowering, if I'm getting that right. You also realise that both of you need to take responsibility for this and work on it / initiate honest conversations. How do you feel about that?
How are you giving yourself the space you need? No pressure to answer these, of course. You can also share anything else you'd like to! Sending you love. ❤️
