Asexual questiom
So I am Listener. I am a guy and I have a question. Am I asexual if I haven't fallen inlove with anyone. Currently I am 21 yrs old. So am in a stage where one should have or at least had fallen but I haven't been in-love since birth. I'm not sure if I don't have crush.
I like looking at the eyes it attracts me though most of the eyes were guys but I don't like them. I just like their eyes. So that is not a crush right? Cause if it is then I don't have a crush.
I am trying to love anyone to the point that I am even thinking about guys to love me, I am like a desperate kid. P.AHAHAH.
Am I really asexual?? It is partially my problem P.ahahah. I have a weird problem XD.
@ListenAndLearn
Not having fallen in love yet does not make you asexual. If that's how you identify, then that's great! But simply not having been in a relationship or not having loved someone does not make you asexual. You should not feel pressured to find an identity or to love someone or to have a relationship. The media may make you think that something is wrong with you if you don't have a relationship by the time you're 16, but that's not true at all. I've known people who haven't "fallen in love with someone" until their mid-to-late 20s.
Whether you have fallen in love with someone or not should not be the determining factor when figuring out your identity. There is no "checklist" for what makes someone asexual, either.
@Mark5
Oh my god!! Reallt XD.
And I was getting scared for nothing P.ahahha.
Well I shall be that.
But how do you know if you are assexual.or not...
@ListenAndLearn
Really, really! You're not abnormal or anything, I promise.
Unfortunately I can't tell you whether you're asexual or not (though it'd be so convenient if I could, right?). Identity and sexuality are just things you have to feel out for yourself - through experimentation, research, talking to people with similar feelings.
Have you checked out our LGBTQ+ Support Room? I bet you'd meet a ton of cool people in there and maybe even some with some of the same thoughts and feelings as you!
@Mark5
I did meet them. I am a bit uncomfortable. Probably because I am not sure yet about my orientation that is why I made this thread P.ahah.
My personal feelings as they say XD.
Yes, it is convenient if you can tell me. P.hahah. I really like it if someone can XD P.ahahh. Though honestly my friends (the girls) wanted me to be gay P.hahah. I don't want to at least not until I am sure I am P.hahah
I really thank you for the advice ad for the cnfirmation. It really scares me if I am xD. Like at this age and era, it is like a freak if you haven't fallen so it scares me. And on top of it all, I am 21 so it is like "woah are you a freak?"
So thank you so much. It gave me a little relief to find that it was normal. At least, technically it is.
@ListenAndLearn
You are so welcome! Good luck!