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I have been with my bf for almost a year now and everything has been going amazing. The only thing we sort of argue about is that I am starting to feel insecure that he cant stay hard or cum when we have sex, I give him blow jobs or hand jobs. In the year we have been together he has made sure that he gets me off almost every single night he stays over before I go to sleep and he has spent 95% of the nights over at my place. I often try to return the favor but it always ends up going on for over an hour and he keeps fluctuating between soft and hard and he wont cum. I end up getting frustrated and insecure and i have been making sure I dont set off that vibe as I dont want him to feel bad about it. However, he is on blood pressure medicine and Im worried that may be causing him to have Erectile dysfunction. I dont want to hurt his ego by bringing it up, but I am getting frustrated as I want to be able to share intimate nights with him. It is making me feel incredibly insecure and making me question if we are compatible. We have discussed it and he has reassured me that he is attracted to me and its just stress or hes tired but I feel like its been long enough that he would have been able to more. He has only cum with me 2 times and both times have been from hand jobs that lasted almost 2-3 hours. Im a little upset that he doesnt seem as phased about it as I am and that it isnt affecting him as much as it is affecting me.
Perhaps he would prefer Tantra sex. If he's attracted to you as you said then it's nothing to do with you and it isn't your fault. Sex can be enjoyable without an orgasm.
Does he watch adult movies rather often? That might be the reason! I don't want to advise any meds like viagra or cialis or something, but I would definitely talk to him, I can't even imagine how exhausting it must be to give handjobs 2-3 hours. The problem is rather long-lasting, why not seeing a doctor?
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If he says you're not the reason that it's probably tru coz you're togather for a long time, so I think you should trust him. Another thing is that men really have problems with erection when they have problems (with job, family, etc.). You just need to talk about it openly. Buying Viagra is not an option coz it can have undesirable side effects especially because he's on some other blood pressure medication. So you should talk with him and consider him visiting a doc for sure.
