Caught BF buying NSFW pics and potentially hooking up with a prostitute
Hi.. so a couple days ago my boyfriend fell asleep late and he has a very early job and I knew since he was doing homework that he probably forgot to set his alarms on his phone. So I set them for him and when I exited out of the alarm settings his current app was open to inappropriate messages from girls on Reddit. I’ve caught him before buying socks from girls. He has a foot fetish and probably more festishes that I don’t know about. He had over 370 pictures saved on his phone that were not of me. I don’t know how much she spent but I’m sure it’s a lot. Then two weeks ago from his messages, he was buying images from a girl and she suggested sex and he said yes but claims that he never actually went because he was too intimidated. I still feel cheated on because the only pictures saved in his phone should be of me and the fact that he said yes to this woman means I wasn’t even a thought in his mind. I feel like the answer should be so simple for me to just break up with him but we’ve been together for 2 1/2 years and I’m having a difficult time as he is also a longtime family friend. I’m just having a hard time. I feel pretty worthless and unwanted 🤷♀️
It’s up to you, but I’d work up the courage to leave. It seems difficult now, but your self esteem and self respect are already being damaged by his behavior.
I'm sorry to hear that. It's important for you to now focus on yourself. Don't forget your worth, I did before and got treated badly. You deserve better. Think about yourself, I'm pretty sure you're a great person. It's not your fault. Just because he's doing that doesn't make you less of the person you are. When I was in this situation, I had to come clean. Telling myself, it's not my fault, I am a great partner and I know that, all the things I do, another person/partner would appreciate it. 2 1/2 years is a lot, but think about yourself. Everyone in your family would understand how you feel. It's your relationship not your families. I feel like deep down you already know what to do and I know it's difficult, but you should really do what is good for yourself. 🌸take care
Try to either meet him in these fetishes to see if it something you would be onboard with, having put my wife through some pretty jerky stuff she told me how it made her feel. Part of it was i was unhappy with who i was and i was acting out. He probably feels insecure and selfish too for one hiding this and two being caught. I too have been caught with nsfw pics on my phone. That happened a few times, albeit i never cheat in person i still emotionally cheated and she feels as bad as you do i imagine.
if you think he is worth it talk about it but most guys dont change that kind of behavior. Its probably rooted in isolation, fear of rejection, and other stuff. no matter what you are feeling I imagine he loves you a lot but he has some issues he needs to work through. Fetishes can be dangerous because it could’ve led him to meet with a person posing as a woman.
Hope that gives you some perspective.