I can never focus on my sexual experiences
Every time my boyfriend and I do the deed, I feel like I’m focusing on anything but that. It makes it hard to connect through the experience or even just generally enjoy it
Any tips to help this?
@DurbanPoision have you noticed where you mind and attention go while you are doing it? That could be a clue.
Also, What is your history with sex? I know from experience that if sex has been an uncomfortable or even traumatic experience, working past that trauma is an important step in having the current experience not be colored by the past.
One thing you could try is a grounding exercise, focusing on your senses in the moment. And if one sense is uncomfortable or triggering, you can switch to another. And remember you can always stop doing it at any time if you want.
HTH ❤️
Have you been tested for ADHD? ADHD can affect sexuality which can cause you to become distracted, lose interest, or have trouble concentrating during sex. It’s worth looking into. I read the article below and it really clarified what was happening to me. I’m looking into getting tested now. I hope you find a solution.
https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/adult-adhd-sex-life#symptoms