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I hate having sex

User Profile: kkslider999
kkslider999 December 24th, 2021

I don’t know why I do. I can feel sexual attraction to people, but I hate the thought of having sex. The last time I did was with a friend and after that I feel completely shutting myself off from them and now I feel gross and regret ever doing it.


I think I just hate getting intimate with people…I just wanna shut myself off. I hate my body. I want to have a normal sex life but I can’t because it just makes me feel gross and weird. I don’t get any enjoyment or satisfaction out of it at all. I got angry at my friend when they suggested doing it again…I know it’s not their fault but I just don’t know how to express how I feel. They don’t understand.


I can feel attraction to someone but as soon as they make aware their attraction to me I just want to shut myself off from them. I don’t know what to do.

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User Profile: fruityPond7887
fruityPond7887 December 25th, 2021

@kkslider999

Hi! I hope you are doing well. I am sorry to hear that you are feeling this way, but your feelings are completely valid. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do until you're ready to do it. Maybe talking to a doctor about it could be helpful? I hope you are able to work it out! Thinking of you!

User Profile: Yougotmyback
Yougotmyback December 26th, 2021

Sending hugs. 🤍


I can relate to you. Just now I refused for sexting to my partner. I told him that when we started talking but you know. It's not your fault. I've recently discovered that probably I'm just asexual. It's hard to make others understand it. I just want to tell you that it's not your fault. I think that's what I needed to hear but I just want to say that you're important. You matter too. It's completely okay to say no to something you don't want. You can talk to people about it beforehand if you feel like it.



You are important too. 🌸🤍

User Profile: Yougotmyback
Yougotmyback December 26th, 2021

Also, you can contact a doctor if you feel it's because of something else. 🌸