I like older men but it's embaressing
I've never told anyone my secret before so I'm nervous but I'm really turned on by silver foxes and I'm in my early 20's.
I feel like it's wrong and I'm so frustrated and embarrassed because it's probably because I was abandoned by my dad. Maybe it developed out of loneliness for a dad.
In a way I want it to stop and I don't want to be doing things that are bad, like imaging my husband as an older man. I hate that I even do that.
I'm afraid one day someone will find out and I don't want anyone else to know
@Luckykuma
you shouldn't be embarassed of sexually prefering older men. it's just a part of your unique sexuality.
when i was younger, i had many fetishes including sexually prefering asian girls and etc. but I've kind-of outgrown that and some others. though my current fetish is loving women who have big hearts. I like big hearts and i can not lie!
@redCanine3669
Yeah I don't know. Maybe it's my way of punishing myself for not having a dad
@Luckykuma that's fine ! I know tons of girls who are around 20 who like older men ! You don't need to hide that you just have a preference. Older men are more mature and are usually more sure of what they want in life. Don't over think it ! Having a preference is nothing to be ashamed of :)
@affectionateSouth2010 that's true. I find intelligence also really sexy. I like well read men, but the problem with that is that so many smarter men are also arrogant and have a supierotiy complex.
@Luckykuma
that's an interesting theory. for me, i had a fetish for asian girls because back in school, there was this one asian girl who i wrote notes to. she was like the first person to appreciate the notes, though she was one of the first to ever receive em. i was very young, and just exploring love and stuff.
but yeah, i misinterpretted that and assumed all people who looked like her had the same personality, and hence a fetish grew from it. but lol, i already know that love is what's inside. i've met other asain girls and they are not girls i would have a great interest in. and i realized growing that fetish was probably doing more harm than good for me, as it was a bit misleading.
i also used to have other small fetishes like girls who wear skirts or who have long hair. but ever since i learned about the extent of surgical technology, i started to lose interest in physical appearances.
but yeah, my current stronger fetishes are women who can give birth or who can produce natural milk. those types of women really excite me. but then again, a fetish is suppose to be considered an object or nongenial body part, so i guess i have no strong fetish.
@redCanine3669 with the milk thing it sounds like you have a mom kink. Can I ask if it stemmed from not having a good relationship with your mother because that might make me understand some things.
I personally have no interest in children at all in fact they give me anxiety. I don't like people who are too loud and talkative. I find too much chatter exhausting.
It's nice being with some one who is slower paced and relaxed who just enjoys your company.
@Luckykuma
yes, we all have different things that we find sexually attractive. it's not a mom kink for me though. a father who undergoes surgery and changes his gender would not be sexually attractive to me. and a woman who has never had any children, but who can breastfeed a baby, would be a bit sexually attractive for me.
also, fetish is definied as "any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation."[dictionary.com] i don't consider people objects, so they aren't fetishes to me. i guess i'm more aligned with sexual preference or sexual orientation, rather than fetishes. i really don't have any noticeable fetishes (pertaining to parts of the body) anymore, ever since i discovered the extent of surgical technology.
@redCanine3669 I'm afraid though if I take my DILF obsession too far then I won't find anything else attractive and that worries me because I find a plethora of things attractive like other girls and even costumes. There's a lot of weird kind of characters that I have imagined being with but the one thing that gets me more than anything is cute old grey daddies. It's like if a customer and his son my age came into the store I wouldn't be checking out the son I'd be eyeing his dad probably thinking something bad and they don't have a clue. But I don't think that this fantasy should be acted upon you know what I mean because it could destroy what I have. I just have a fetish for grey hair and smile lines. Besides I'm a really fat girl and I should really not be picky about my taste, I'd like to know if any older guys have checked me out though. I'd probably get very excited to know. It makes me feel like I'm doing something bad. I don't want to get in trouble
@Luckykuma
i think you're describing a kink, and not a fetish.
regardless, sexual preference need not always determine your relationships. for example, if i found asians sexually attractive, that doesn't mean i'd necessarily want to be in a relationship with an asian woman. or if i found blacks not sexually attractive, that doesn't mean i wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a black woman. finding a person for sex is different than finding a person for a relationship.
@redCanine3669 I think all races are very attractive.
@Luckykuma
i find all races sexually attractive as well. as a man, my libido does not discriminate ;)