Is there something wrong with me?
I dislike having sex but atthe same time like it. It's weird and hard to explain butill try. When I have sex at first I'm all into it then halfway I just like turn off and its not lIke i cum or anything. My body just shuts down and is over it. Im not a very horny person i try to avoid having sex. But when i do normally I just tell my boyfriend to stop after a while or I'll just sit there and wait for him to finish. I occasionally masterbate so I don't think that's the issue.It sucks that I don't really find sex enjoyable. And I was wondering if someone can relate or know what I have because I don't feel like it's normal. I want sex to feel enjoyable but I just can't and it really takes a toll in my relationship. ):
I know how you feel, it happens to me sometime. But I know that with me, it happens because I was raised a Catholic, and even though I never cared about it after I turned 13, deep down I feel bad for having sex with strangers. Also, I know I feel bad because my mother usually knows when I'm going out and I can't help but think I'm a disappointment, and I feel ashamed. Maybe you have some kind of trauma or bad feeling deep down, but haven't realised yet?
I was raisedcatholic too. And I have the same issues about my mom. I never though that could be the issue because at the moment Iwouldn'tthink about that but who knows maybe in the back of my mindI know what I'm doingis wrong. How do you deal with it? Or is there any advice you can I've me ?
To be honest, I just stopped. I stopped, watched a movie or something and went back to my house. I think I avoided that person for a while until I felt better, but for me, there's not much beyond that. I just stopped doing it and waited.
Have you ever thought that maybe you are overanalyzing it? My boyfriend and my female friend both have this issue and say it's like they can't shut of their brain. She calls it "spocking". Bothh of them are not able to orgasm when this happens.
I'm heavily agreeing with this last response... you may not even realize it is happening that way and when you are tuned out of the experience, you obviously aren't going to be able to benefit physically or mentally from it, so your body isn't responding favorably.
It happens to me too. I dated my ex boyfriend for 2 years and never had an orgasm. I just waited him to finish. We never discussed this because I thought something was wrong with me. The fact is that I constantly want to have sex but in the middle of it I just want it to finish because somehow I don't enjoy it