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Ladies advice needed: He lasts for hous and never cums

User Profile: mndooley
mndooley July 27th, 2016

I love sex with my gf....best I've ever had every time. The problem is I can last for hours and never ejaculate 1 out of 4 or 5 times. Now I don't find this to be a problem because I love giving my woman pleasure (20+ orgasms), but she feels like she isn't doing something right and feels bad every time. I have told her that I love being with her and that she is doing everything right and it feels great but she still gets down on herself. What can I do or say to ease her feelings?

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User Profile: BrightRedFlower2322
BrightRedFlower2322 July 27th, 2016

Its totally normal some men last longer then there partners and some women last longer then there man its not her she's fine never force yourself to cum so many times cause you can also do damage inside of you there's only a limit on how many times to cum in one day if you over do it and force your self to cum you can cause damage and half the time you won't be able to cum cause your all juiced out every one is different if you want your girlfriend's mind at ease go to the doctors take her with you and both of you talk to the doctor that might help her more cause the doctor can explain it to her all the best and good luck

User Profile: Eillice
Eillice August 1st, 2016

@mndooley this reminds me a bit of my and I. I myself in general thought that someone who cums immediately at the sight of me is the biggest compliment ever, so having my bf last hours made me feel horrible about myself, instead of seeing it like he really wants to have sex with me I saw it more like a struggle to cum. Lets face it porn and even general movies have sort of conditioned girls to believe that the hotter the sex the faster the man cums, you rarely see a guy with a girl he finds ugly shaking uncontrollably, yet if he is super aroused by the partner he can even cum too early. Thus I understand your gf very much. However overtime I got over it because he explained it to me in better terms. Usually he would tell me generic sentences that I considered empty flattery such as "I love having sex with you so much that I never want it to end, etc." Yet later (I guess technically he repeated the same thing) but this time he elaborated and I was able to actually understand it better and believe him, due to all the details. He just told me, that when he thinks that once he cums it will be over, he wants to keep going, and that happens pretty much everytime, so he always keeps post-poning. He also showed me that he can let go and come pretty quick if he released control. His other explanation was that when we were younger we practiced unsafe sex and he often had to control his urges to cum in order not to impregnate me and while doing that he has trained himself to hold back well, which is something he loves doing even today just to prolong the pleasure. However frankly his love for long sex has pushed me to avoid initiating any sex, because it feels like a time trap, and most often I wish I could have a quickie. In my case I'd probably prefer many short sessions rather than one long session. One ironic reason is that I find my bf is really good in the sack... and every orgasm is earth shattering so it really doesn't take long to exhaust me, I mean at some point there is nothing left of the earth and he still wants to keep going. So maybe if you control her pleasure tone it down so she can build up to it, rather than keep cumming so much, because you will exhaust her. Anyway I don't know if any of it help. I hope it did, for whatever it is worth, your gf isn't the only one who feels like that.

User Profile: VanessaD92
VanessaD92 August 3rd, 2016

@mndooley Remind her that sex isnt all about the orgasm or cumming. While it may be frustrating to her that she can't bring you to that point for some time, it is important that she realizes you two are still creating a connection. Find ways to have her enjoy the connection and the sensations. I once had a sex therapist come to one of my university classes and she says this to all her clients, "It's not a race or a destination, it's the fun involved. Dont focus on the finale, focus on the pleasure". I think its very important that people remember this. While its great to reach the end, it's better to enjoy it.