Masturbating in front of a partner
Hi
I am married all most a year now i am 24 she is 25 I am wanting to know what women think or feel about watching there partner pleasure themselves while they watch. As i would like to ask my wife at some point if she would like to watch me do that but i am a bit embarassed and unsure how she might feel or think.
Thx
@understandingLunch1947 if you are looking at her thighs, her buttocks, her belly, her breasts, her arms, her fingers, her feet, her vulva, her eyes, her hair, her back, her knees, her calves, her neck, her cleavage, and masterbating then i dont think she will mind it. but if you are watching porn and masturbating, then she would be hurt and annoyed i guess.
@turquoisePal6343
Very true , not a big fan of porn
i agree. recognizing a partner's beauty is proper and respectful. but openly recognizing another women's beauty (who isn't your partner) is a bit contradictory and disrespectful, in my opinion. also, porn is more than just observations of beauty but rather observations of prostitution, amorality, fantasy, misogyny, and etc. tis why i stopped watching porn a year ago.
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is tasting your own while doing that infront of a partner maube a bit over the top or to much i mean
@understandingLunch1947
since you're married, i feel you would the only person who best knows about your wife's sexuality.
but otherwise, most women, if not all women i've met, are not much into sexuality or sexual activity. masturbating in front of a woman would likely have no effect, and if it has an effect, that effect would likely be of fear.
i mean, as a man, i'd love to see a women masturbate in front of me. but that's because i'm a sexual man who's into that stuff. as for most women i've met, i don't think they appreciate or admire sexuality as much as i do, and rather i find that sexuality has a somewhat opposite effect on them. i feel that women prefer expressions of non-sexual love more than expressions of sexual love; and in most cases, it's a matter of finding ways of tranforming raw sexual expressions into equally powerful non-sexual expressions.
of course, your wife might be different. but regardless, i always like to play it more safe than sorry, when it comes to women.
@redCanine3669 You are very reassurring. I am not like other women who are overly emotional, sensitive, and prefer talking instead of sex. I used to be a stripper and escort, so I love sex and my emotions are hard to express due to my past. But I fixed my past and now am married, but I still love sex of course. My husband has turned to loving his 12 pack of Miller Lite though instead. We have been married almost 5 years now and our sex life has gone to routine. He is not very experimentive, he's a Taurus, but we used to do it randomly. Now we do it when he's half in the bag. I don't need emotional stuff or feelings like you say. I want to do different things. Will he think it's nasty if I brought home those ben wa balls like from 50 Shades Darker? lol
@TransAm85
Sorry to hear Miller is more fun for him I think most guys mis the boat i was nervous or embarassed about masturbating and tasting my self infront of my wife but i finally talked to her about it and she thinks i am insane and so hot when i do that ,, only have done it 2 times but wow
wishing u the best ..never give up
@understandingLunch1947 Ok, I went and got the ben wa balls .. showed him and he called me creepy! He was a little intoxicated already, but he said he would divorce me just b/c of that! I knew I couldn't go w/him to a sex store, so I went w/my mother. The women who were working there are sex ed teachers, and they were telling us that the balls are good for tightening the vagina, better orgasms, and urinary incontinance problems, so how is that creepy? Are you a traditional lover? Every man has a fantasy I thought? I guess my husband is a total 100% strict Christian. Do you believe that your fantasies and sexual actions are against your religion? I mean, I think your stated fantasy will not send you to hell, if you believe in God or Allah. We are all human! But I guess everyone is different.
@TransAm85
Hi
Not sure why he thinks its creepy as for me i would be happy you got them as everything you said is true from what i have read , they do help women in many ways as you said so i think thats its wonderful you are doing things to improve or better yourself and body as it is also a positive for him to ....as for me i am open to everything that is good for you and your partner no church hang ups on my end,,,mom and dad were hippies and open.
never give up :]
@redCanine3669
just a note: when i say "women," i mean "cis women." i felt most of them didn't like the idea of sex much because there's always a chance they could get pregnant, as well as my hormones are a bit higher than theirs.
I think its very natural and helps you get to know better. Me and my gf often turn up some free porn videos and play solo / with each other. My gf loves this yes porn because they have also lot of soft porn in realy hq
