Partial promiscuity?
Married male here, love my wife she is amazing, sex is great etc. For some effed up reason as soon as she is gone for a trip or extended days I start looking up stuff I know that if she knew it would be bad. I text her things that I shouldn't and it doesnt bother her to much but I push the issue which is definitely not good. Yes I think of other people when she is gone then I get all worked up and boom finish and I feel so dumb and guilty..... I cant seem to stop.
I’m share lots of people feel this way but don’t feel comfortable talking about it. Addictions come in many forms but can be broken. If you could find ways to keep busy and probably have male friends who understands and value the commitment you want to make to your wife and marriage you can call them and they can help keep you accountable for your actions. If you don’t trust sharing with friends, there’s anonymous small groups. It’s freeing when you can take control of your actions and live without guilt. Thanks for sharing, wishing you the best.
Unfortunately even I fall into a similar category. I wish it would have been better. I usually don't do inappropriate things, it's just I often want to have conversations with women.
Yeh I haven’t acted on anything but I keep wondering if I’m narcissistic for wanting so much interaction. I had a connection (not sex) with a musician friend once who was the first person I’d met that seemed to get it. Some of my friends call it Sex addiction but I’m reading a book called “The Ethical Slut” and it makes me feel like so much less of a horrible person.
I do the same thing
Thanks for the replies, my phone literally just updated me to them. I am with her now and it's bliss honestly... like I said just hate when I do and talk about stuff with others...ugh ... thanks for the advice and I'll keep chugging along.... I'll let you know progress...hopefully lol
I feel like it’s a common misconception that this is a struggle for only males but I am a female and I feel like the hugest double standard. Most people who knew me would think I was this old fashioned traditional woman and in many ways I might be but I feel OBSESSED with the thought of sex. Sex with strangers, sneaky sex, rough Sex, tender lovemaking, sexual tension, ALL OF IT. I feel nervous about how intense these urges are getting.
I was cheated on by my ex husband and I remember how much it hurt and how betrayed I felt but I also feel like life is short and I am worried I will deeply regret not living out these fantasies. I’ve only ever been with my ex-husband and my current boyfriend and I find myself insanely envious and almost resentful that my boyfriend had been with many girls. He is not really into sex anymore we used to have an incredible sex life. Now he sends me YouTube videos about how if I evolve into a deeper human being, I won’t be so upset about the lack of Sex. He is good to me for the most part and we make a pretty good team but I am lonely and so insanely horny if I am being blunt.
