Passive Wife

Hello all, I'm a newly wed 28 year old man who married the love of his life after years of fighting to get her (her family didn't approve at first). However my sex life hasn't been that satisfying after having gotten married and I'm worried I might be doing something wrong.

My wife is very passive when it comes to sex, she won't withhold or anything but she very rarely initiates sex. She never seems to feel satisfied nor does she seem interested in being satisfied. It always feels like she's just doing me a favor.

We were both virgins when we got married a few months ago and she started going on the pill, I don't know if any of those two contribute to this but she says it does. She tries to avoid penetration because she says it hurts and she always seems to be distracted (she has ADD) as we get intimate.

Just to elaborate more on my side, I am ready to do whatever she wants. I love foreplay and she says she wants it but no matter what I do it doesn't seem to turn her on, sometimes she's just really distracted and it feels like I'm kissing a brick wall. I even offer oral sex and go down on her but it doesn't do much, she's still distracted and uninterested.

Our intimacy usually just ends up with her providing me oral sex (sometimes she even skips any of the foreplay and just goes to oral immediately like she wants to get it over with). Even when we have sex she doesn't seem to interested in trying new positions.