Please help

if you feel a fetish is making relationships go sour, then either drop the fetish or drop the relationship attempts?

i have fetishes too, but i don't build relationships around fetishes. for example, if i find blacks sexually attractive, that doesn't mean i go looking for a black woman to have a relationship with. relationships and sex can sometimes be seen as two different things, at least in my view because i find not many women are interested in having sex with me anyhow. so if i do ever end up in a relationship, i probably won't ever be sexed.