Question - odd feelings
In light of my learning of recent events on women’s rights and rape cases and stuff I’ve been feeling increasingly unable to feel horny or sexual in my relationship. My bf has always been respectful toward me and our sex life making me feel comfortable, but I don’t like submitting myself to being sexualized...? I don’t understand this feeling because I used to love sex and now I don’t. My bf and I do have drunk sex and there is one night I don’t remember if we did or didn’t not and it’s bugged me... anyone have any advice
@JMN26
I've faced a similar situation. Had to dump a wonderful boy because of it :/
But, I don't feel that way so much anymore, and here's what I did. I became more dominant. Took the reins, and tried to figure out what pleasured me the most. I tried to be selfish, in a way. It was strangely liberating - taking without thinking of giving back, but of course, I'd spoken about this with my partner beforehand and they were willing to let me try this thing out. So, it's important you communicate about this issue with your bf! I'm sure he'll understand. All the best <3
I think in part it’s because women have been shamed to feel pleasure and maybe since I have a wonderful bf who cares about my pleasure, and wants me to feel good I’m mentally sabotaging myself due to others unfortunate events with sexual feelings. I do think it would make sense to take the reins and be in control because it would feel liberating to know it’s not happening to me, I’m making it happen
@JMN26 good for u babe! you can get through this. your boyfriend sounds like an amazing person, and i'm sure he will be understanding and co-operative. <3
Try being on top—it feels so much more empowering than the man being on top!
