Scared of sex

@wolfman77 I'm so sorry. Have you talked to a counselor about this? Have you had some type of trauma growing up or religious upbringing? Sex is a way to connect with someone and feel good, as long as you both consent. You aren't doing anything wrong.

I had the same issue.. I had the fear of being naked.. always in my head to the point that I couldn’t enjoy sex.. so finally I broke it down to my boyfriend. I let him know it felt great but I can’t get out of my head due to insecurities. So what he did was.. he prepped me for about a week and told me that he was going to completely take care of me.. when the time came.. he stripped me naked, touched me everywhere and told me how much he loved me and loved this and that about my body. He constantly reminded me of how he loved me.. if I would start to stray off. He would grab my face and say “get out of your head. I love you” and he would kiss me. And trust me he had to do it a lot.. it honestly worked! And my sex life is so much better! Does he have to still pull me back together every now and then? Yes.. but that’s what love is all about.. Maybe share this message with ur partner.. or sit down and tell them about what u feel, what u need.. sometimes if someone has had the feeling they don’t understand it. So break it all the way down for them. Communication, touch, and extra love goes a LONG way! 😊

@wolfman77

men and women can have body image issues, which might lead to all manner of anxieties when the time comes to slip between the sheets with that special person. you should take steps to get comfortable in your skin by actively acknowledging everything you like about your body — repeatedly. stand in front of a mirror, as close to naked as you can tolerate. You’re going to look at what you see there, and you’re going to write down everything you see that you like. And then do it again tomorrow, and then do it again the next day, and the next day. in repetition, so that you can begin to get comfortable with your body and love it for its unique beauty. whoever you’re getting into bed with really wants to be there, with you, and that they are looking forward to the time you’re about to spend together.

@wolfman77

If you feel guilty after sex, it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you or that you don’t care about your partner – it’s okay to have mixed feelings about intimacy sometimes.

Feeling guilty for having sex isn’t something most people talk about, which is why it might be difficult for you to know where to start. Here are a few steps you can take:

1. Try to figure out why you feel guilty

The best way to become more aware of your thoughts and to make more sense of your inner world is to keep a journal where you write down everything you feel and experience.

Putting things on paper can give you some more clarity. Feeling guilty after having sex can mean a lot of things and can be something unexpected, like the inability to enjoy yourself knowing your best friend struggles to find a partner and so on.

2. Explain the situation to your partner

If you don’t have an honest conversation with your partner, it might lead to tension, and your partner might feel left out. Once you’ve figured out where the guilt might be coming from, you can sit your partner down and explain to him everything you’re comfortable with.

If guilt is linked to something traumatic that happened to you, you don’t have to include any details. The most important thing is to make your partner aware of your emotions so that he knows you’re working on getting better and so that he can support you.

3. Focus on the positives

Feeling guilty for having sex can make you forget how good it might feel, so instead of focusing on guilt, try to focus on pleasure. In other words, instead of having sex, engage in other sexual activities.