Sexual Anxiety
Hey guys i've been with my bf 8 years now. Always had a great sex life until the last year. I suddenly get very anxious and chicken out on making moves on him. Any ideas how to get my confidence back? I just dont understand why I used to be so confident and now everytime I think about making a move, my heart starts to race and I chicken out
@IrishOranges
Maybe something happen? Like a comment that made you lose your confidence, or something in the relationship?
Either way just remember he's with you for you. He loves you and wants you. There's no rush, no pressure. Take your time and enjoy yourself.
best of luck
I quite agree here. It almost sounds like something has happened, some change in the relationship or something that happened that has really driven doubt in yourself.
As you look around, what has changed or what has happened?
My hope for sexual or physical intimacy used to be to climax and to bring someone along with me. Yay, what fun. Yet, I have found, as I truly consider my feelings and what I am seeking, I long for that human connection with someone I love and trust.
I mention it as a thought that perhaps your goals have changed. A romp in between the sheets may have been a good time before, but are you now looking for something more meaningful?
I don't know, and I certainly feel there a lot of things that could cause this type of change.
While you don't put the moves on him, does he still initiate with you? I mean, are you still sexually active with him, and it's just that you no longer start things, or what is the full nature and extent of the differences now?
