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Should I tell him?

User Profile: quickwittedHuman5732
quickwittedHuman5732 January 18th, 2021

So I’m 20 years old and a guy I’m talking to is a bit older than me. We aren’t wurst at that stage yet but when we are do I have to tell him I’m a virgin? I really don’t want to because I know he thinks I’ve had sex and it honestly embarrasses me to have to say something.

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User Profile: Asher
Asher January 18th, 2021

It can be tough to share something so personal, but any relationship is about trust and communication. So you if you want this to go further you may need to tell the truth.

User Profile: Dgs807
Dgs807 January 19th, 2021

There's nothing to be embarrassed about being a virgin. Everyone has their own reasons for waiting or being nervous to have done it yet. There's no shame.

User Profile: lifeisbeautiful37
lifeisbeautiful37 February 13th, 2021

My husband and I were virgins when we married at 22 and 29! It’s nothing to be ashamed about! Also, are you considering losing your virginity to this man? Don’t give it up if you’re not sure. It could be good to tell him, but what would it accomplish? Do you want to have sex with him and are self conscious or afraid of not performing? Then that would be a good thing to talk with him about. Or do you want him to know you are a virgin so he doesn’t expect sex with you, that you hope to remain a virgin? Or that your still arent sure? Also keep in mind some men like to be the ones girls lose their virginity to, so how well do you know him?