Wifesharing
We are very close to a male friend of us both. He is in a nasty divorce and needs to feel desirable , as well as sexually satisfied. I am fine with my wife helping and she said she can. Should we?
@tidyTalker8646
Hi there. Thanks for reaching out. This sounds complex (to me) and could run with high stakes, but you’re adults and what you do in your time is your business of course.
I can’t advise as such, but can only suggest you and your wife have a good talk to discuss it further.
@RainbowRosie great insights and suggestions. We are talking through the challenges and benefits
@tidyTalker8646,
I wouldn't. Because he's too close and on top of that, not in a good place. This is asking for disaster. There's plenty of websites he can use.
@tidyTalker8646
Interesting question. As you asked, something about it makes you not comfortable. Else you would not ask.
Probably some would be ok with this, others would not. You are trying to figure out for yourself.
Once its done, you can not undo it.
There is three people involved. You, Her, Him. Biology tells you will not like it at some level.
Who had the idea first ?
@BigWaterDog It was my idea and she slowly warming up to it
@tidyTalker8646
This is very generous of you. I still feel you eventually will not like it, but I have been wrong plenty of times. Tell us a bit of how it makes you feel and why you would give this gift. How would you feel if she asked you to do this for one of her girl friends? Is it ok for you if she eventually decided that she liked him better and decided to stay with him? Not saying that would happen, only to think about how it would feel, would you miss her or just be happy she makes a choice she wants.
We never know what is in the mind of another. As you lobby to convince her, how does that make her feel that you would like her to do this?
Just more to think about.
@tidyTalker8646This is a very personal decision that depends on your boundaries, comfort levels, and the trust in your relationship. Open and honest communication between you and your wife is essential before making any choices like this. Discuss how it might affect your marriage emotionally and practically. Consider any possible risks and feelings involved for everyone. Some couples find that clear agreements and boundaries help in situations like this, but it’s important that both of you feel fully comfortable and respected. Would you like help thinking through questions to discuss with your wife?
