no libido
im not sure how to word this...ive been with my bf for 14yrs and the sex is just not the same well...it is and it isn't...i feel like my libido has gone downhill...i just don't want it anymore...he keeps complaining and wanting to find another girl just to have sex with and i have told him how i felt repeatedly and i just don't know...anyone have any suggestions
@msviolinist100
That is a tough one to address, violinist. There could be a lot of reasons behind the change in your "appetite" in that area. If things are always the same, the excitement can become lost, so trying new patterns can be helpful. I've noticed there are lots of articles out there on the internet. My partner and I like taking time to treat one another special, give compliments, even go on a proper date to set the mood. Those things can take you back to when you used to be younger, when things were new and fresh. I hope you find your flame of desire again soon.
Are there other things going wrong in your relationship? Like do you feel disconnected from him or feel some anger towards him for some reason or another? If so, I think that could affect your desire to have sex with him. But you also don’t have to have sex with him or desire to have sex in general.
I would start with going to the doctor and on work done to check your hormones. There can be a few things going on hormonally that can affect the female sex drive, as well as any medications that you are currently taking. Also, ask yourself if you’ve had any signs of depression.
Sadly, women don’t have a little blue pill to fix it so starting with a check up can help identify the issue and possibly help get you back on track.