2 years unhappily married with a baby

Been 2 years since I got married to my boyfriend of 7 years (since college). Got pregnant and our very traditional families, mostly mine, demanded marriage. I agreed because I love him.

But he changed after the marriage and the baby. He got stricter, lost patience with both me and the baby, got more irritable, and vindictive. There was one time he told me he did not need to express his gratitude towards me for doing the regular things a mom should be doing — working my butt off during the day and being a full-time mom after work. I rarely have time for myself except on Saturdays and toilet time. This hurt me incredibly because my love language involved words of affirmation but I am not affirmed. He knows this.

Most of the advises I receive include tolerating, being more patient, submission to him as a wife, and even taking his loud voice and side remarks as a joke. I don't know if I can still do this. I love my baby and I want him to have a complete family. I understand that I also have shortcomings as a wife but now I worry that I'm going to fall out of love with him and start feeling trapped in the marriage.