Am I doing something wrong?
My bf and I’s mutual friend has always been there for us. But lately I’ve seen how they always bring up my bf’s past relationships and how I’m the total opposite of them. I have always been on the bigger side but lately I’ve been on a weight loss journey.. I have almost gotten to where I want to be but they still seem to make jabs at me…they do it in front of my bf too and my bf defends me and makes sure I’m okay.. but I still don’t understand why they don’t like me.. when I wasn’t with my bf and we were all just friends it was all good. But now he makes fun of my weight.. our friends bf has told him he needs to stop but I just don’t get what I did wrong? I know he’s always saying how I stole him from him and that my bf doesn’t give him attention like he use to.. but he has his own partner. I just want to know why he is hating me lately.
@valerie67
Hi Valerie, What makes you think his behaviour is your fault? It sounds to me like the behaviour is coming from his own issues, we can't tell what they might be (he might not even know, sometimes it is unconscious). He might be lonely, jealous, afraid, stressed, anxious, depressed or something else and it comes out in his behaviour.
It sounds like your bf is supportive. Are you able to talk about it with him? Let him know how hurtful you find it and see if you can come up with a plan together. The friend might think it is just fun and joking, maybe your bf could let him know it has to stop in order for you to both keep socialising with him.